Something has been really bugging me lately. It’s this idea of happiness and optimism and the facade of the ‘forever smiling, cute, sunshiny’ person.
I feel like that is just so extremely destructive and harmful as a whole and I know that personally it has destroyed me at times because I just couldn’t be that person. Because that person… they’re not real.
There’s a real problem in the world we live in (let’s be honest, the Western world) with accepting sadness, or not just sadness, accepting neutrality and plain contentness with the moment. It feels like there’s a performance, a show, a costume that we all wear for the benefit of others, for the benefit of this image of who we SHOULD be and for the benefit of what the world tells us to be like, and we end up lying to ourselves most of the time.
We feel, as humans that we don’t deserve the things we get, so every time something wonderful happens in our life it’s not experienced fully. On the other hand we have the ever present watching eye of others, our family, our friends, our colleagues, our partners. So, we put on a show. We act in extremes. And for me, that’s not healthy. And when we are just feeling ‘ok’ or ‘fine’, others don’t believe us, and after a while we find a problem.
And it’s not just that, it’s about acceptance, really. If you feel like crap, feel it, if you feel over the top with excitement and joy, feel that too, if you feel content and just fine, don’t feel like you have to sensationalize it for anyone, not even for yourself.
Just accept these feelings and be ok with who you are at that particular moment. Enjoy and love that part of you that is content, nurture it and absorb it. And when someone else is feeling that, don’t take it away from them. Accept them as well and love them for the person they are at that particular moment.
I don’t know if this applies to anyone else but that thought has help me so much.
Just accept yourself, love yourself and grow… moment by moment.